Luahan Rasa????

I am some kind of 'free' the whole week.....still got works to do, but no pressure like dateline or meeting etc. I am waiting for comments on the proposal submitted last week, so I am just searching and reading whatever related materials I can find. At times, I feel that I deserved 'this time' after struggling weeks before, but at times I hate being in this situation as my mind will linger towards other things...which when we think about it too much pun will not solve anything....hahaha....apa ler yg cuba kuterangkan ni?? Let me just write whatever things on my mind this whole week :

Polite vs Honest :

A friend said : "we're too busy being polite to each other that we forget to be honest"

and I go "but, sometimes we are too excited to put up our views that we forget to be polite???"

I believe that it should be the combination of both. In theory, one can be honest and polite at the same time. But I rarely see it practised, as most I see (and maybe even me) tend to be on either too honest sampai tak kira perasaan orang, or too polite sampai tak bagitau pendapat sebenar. Sedih sebenarnya because the last thing yg kita nak di perantauan especially ialah 'pertelingkahan'. I admit, we have our own view and we have the right to be heard. Cuma yg menjadikan semuanya as satu pertelingkahan ialah the way we do it. 'Too honest' sampai the chosen word mencemarkan maruah dan kredibiliti orang. 'Too polite' asyik bersimpul2 bahasa sampai tak tercapai maksud dan menyebabkan org tak paham dan org buat kesimpulan pelik2.

But nasib ler in the middle of this dilemma, one person stood up and her email taught me of how you can be honest and polite at the same time. Using the combination of both direct but 'soft', and indirect but precise sentences, she managed to deliver her message which is understandable, informative and make better sense. Perhaps, one may need lots of experience, practise and patience to be able to do that. I salute her...you know who you are....thank you kak.

Is it the 'malay', 'being bijak pandai' or is it just DIRI KITA SENDIRI??

Most of the time, certain things can be associated with certain characteristics. Like girls love pink, and women easily cry. But at times, it may not be in a perfect 'relationship' like we thought it might be, especially when there is no research on it (hahaha....).

Some say, 'susah jugak deal dengan orang bijak pandai ni', addressing the situation that they faced when nak set up event with 'people of higher level of education' (personally, i prefer myself as 'saya budak baru belajar' dari 'bijak pandai'......hahahahaha....). Make sense isn't it? Orang 'bijak pandai' banyak nak tanya, banyak nak bagi idea.....logik jugak le. But, when I compare the situation of setting the same event with other sample of 'bijak pandai'.....no such thing as 'susah' occurred. Looking at the different attributes of the samples, it poses a question of whether it is just 'the Malay' menyebabkan bendanya jadi 'susah'. Tapi...tak jugak. Because other Malay sample yang sempat dikaji takde pun menghadapi 'kesusahan' yg sama. Lalu ku buat kesimpulan....perhaps, it is just diri kita sendiri.....yang menyebabkan benda yg senang jadi susah dan yang simple jadi complicated. Thus, I am taking this as a lesson for myself.....I can criticize and I can give idea, no one is denying my rights to do that. But it would be better if it is done with wit and wisdom. It would make things less complicated, stronger and effective daripada menyebabkan ada hati yg terluka, ada jiwa yang merana, ada minda yg kacau bilau.

Saya akhiri kata2 saya hari ini, dengan peringatan untuk diri sendiri dan sesiapa yang sudi belajar bersama saya di petang jumaat ini. Ingat nak quote ayat2, atau reka pantun yg sesuai, atau simpulan bahasa....but just make do of my own piece of mind-lah (tapi ni mcm quote org kata jugak...cuma in my own understanding)

"solat mempamerkan dan membentuk kehidupan seharian kita. ada masa kita berdiri, ada masa kita rukuk dan ada masa kita sujud. mcm tu jugak la life. ada masa, letakkan lah akal lebih tinggi dari hati (berdiri), ada masa letakkanlah akal sama level dengan hati (rukuk), ada masa letakkan hati lebih tinggi dari akal (sujud). as practise makes perfect, begitu jugak la it applies here. bila nak berdiri, rukuk dan sujud....hanya akan dapat kita tentukan bila kita selalu mempraktiskannya".

fuuuhhh.....easy said than done. I need lots of practise to be able to do that.....anger management, toleransi, communication skill etc.....tapi, asal ada niat untuk kearah kebaikan...insyallah, semua akan dipermudahkan!!

(waaa....posting kali ni mcm luahan rasa Cik Sri Siantan lak....Maya and Zizs, you guys got comment??? teringat Maya cik Sri Siantan menyelesaikan masalah melalui tingkap pecah 5N di suatu building disebuah sekolah asrama perempuan di kaki bukit merbah.....mmg takde kerja sungguh kita dulu kan .....i miss you guys ler and zaman muda-mudi...hehehe)